Time to grow up.

A few of you may be aware of what happened about 2 years ago with a couple family members. And as I will try not to throw people under the bus and air their business all over the internet I will also try to fill you in so that this post won't be completely misunderstood. Basically, when Landon was about 4 months old, we moved in with Omar's sister and her family. We lived there for about 3 months and it just go to be very tense and always having that feeling of not wanting to come home. And that was on both sides. We weren't used to co-habitating with one another and our little habits and quarks seemed to annoy the one another. As the tension built so did tempers and then one day they all seemed to release. And of course, they were released on each other and well since then we haven't really spoken. There was name calling, family bashing, and it even almost got physical. Needless to say we moved out in about 2 hours and never looked back. However since then, families have grown, things have happened and I am starting to wonder will we all ever be able to bury the hatchet let alone be in the same room? They say family is the most important and if your family doesn't support you, who will?

Omar and I had some family over a couple days ago and it got us to thinking... should we just get over it and grow up? Their side has apologized for it, but at the time the wound was still fresh so Omar and I went about our lives and pretty much wrote them off. We eventually decided that we would mend things with his sister but not her husband. Making for an awkward situation for not only their kids but for her as well. Whenever she came to visit, he never came and we never really invited them anywhere as we knew she'd want to bring him and vice versa. Even when things started to fall apart between them we supported her and not him. And now that they are happy and together again we have pretty much said good riddance to the both of them. Why? I'm not entirely sure, hence me thinking about this a lot. What if the roles were reversed? Therefore I think that we are ready to accept their apology from 2 years ago (if it still stands) and put the past behind us. Not only would it make everyone be able to breathe a little easier and and not feel as if they have to tip toe around, but it would also give our kids the opportunity to get to know each other again. When this all happened Ava wasn't even born and neither was their youngest, Jacob. Growing up, I knew exactly what it was to have relatives fighting and the feeling of having to please everyone and make sure that certain people weren't at certain events, basically avoiding the 2 parties from clashing. I still go through that and that is the last thing I want for my kids to feel. I/We just need to put our pride aside and realize that family is family.

Hakuna Matata.